This evening after work, I went to the after work watering hole to have a few drinks to celebrate somebody else’s anniversary of the first breath.   I spent a fair proportion of the night talking to one of the girls from work.

I now have additional evidence that I do not understand women.

I am fine at talking to girls/women as long as I don’t see them as a potential romantic partner.  Why I draw any distinction is still beyond me.  My almost colleague’s advice to me “be less shy”. Cue the sarcasm, but no I will resist.

I actually appreciate the advice.  I can see that it is intrinsically correct and were it to be practical, it would be of significant value.  But  one significant question remains.

How?

How do I ‘be less shy’ short of one suggestion which was snogging random girls in bars.  No wonder I’m not a huge fan of the bar scene if that is an expected behaviour.

I understand that I need to talk to more women to try and find one that I think is worth putting the time into to try and build a relationship.  I worry that what I have to talk about, as it’s not pop culture related very much if at all, won’t be of any interest to any women that I meet at random.

I mean how interesting is ‘I was reading about this extraordinary find in the night sky this morning. It is a binary carbon star that is projecting spirals of carbon molecules and is now (well 3000 years ago when the light left it to come to the hubble telescope)  over 3 trillion kilometers across!  It’s so dark that the hubble exposure was 33 minutes long to record the breath taking image. (Hat Tip to Dr Phil Plait on Bad Astronomy) I find it fascinating, but would a woman I approached at random?

Or the prevalence of Pi in mathematics? Or the cascading harmonies in a constant note from a violin? Or the elegance in a beautiful piece of code? Or how cameras try to make the average colour in a photo 18% grey?

Is it the case that the passion of the speaker can make the boring inspirational?  Can I be a powerful conversationalist with my atypical interests?

Your thoughts are not only welcome, but in fact are highly prized.

So my next birthday approaches, and I’m deciding what I am going to do about it.  I mean it’s a depressing enough event without feeling the need to celebrate it, although a celebration of my completion of another circumnavigation of Sol at 1 au of altitude (he he nerd joke) will be impetus enough to reach out to friends of yesterday and to embrace those of today.

So ideas about how to mark the day, which fortunately is a Saturday this year.

Step 1. Examine current interests for inspiration.

  • Laserforce – Nah too juvenile to have the whole thing there (besides they’d frown on the amount of C2H5OH that would be consumed).
  • Shooting – Yeah, this maybe better left well enough alone. Besides I’ve been well slack about going recently.
  • Sci Fi – Easy to incorporate, not to easy to make the center piece.
  • Rock Climbing – Well it’s in storm season, and indoor is a bit exey for a big group
  • Mathematics – Ha I’m hilarious…
  • Drinking – This works…

Ok, so were going to work in C2H5OH (ethanol for those of you who don’t think in terms of notation of various forms), probably some music, maybe some indoor rock climbing (because having a jumping castle has been done recently), slacklining is a must have, And the people from Sci Fi & Lasers will probably have to do. And there will be maths in the planning for it so… Yay!

Step 2. Guest List…  So I’ll throw out a broad net here.  The gang from Uni, old School mates, mates from Work, the gang from lasers, my Sci Fi mates, the rock climbers who won’t be driving to the Bluies on the day (unfortunately the convoy down leaves on my b’day 😦 and I won’t be in it.).  Also anyone I would have invited to my 21st or 18th had I actually had a significant party for either of these.  I’ll have to track down some of the peeps from Rovers and trow the net that way as it will be the day I would have been ‘Booted’ had I stayed in.

Step 3. Venue… Well there are a number of factors here, including capacity, cost, location and permitted activities.  Harking back to my days in scouting I think a Scout Den would be a good choice for the party location. Easy enough to hire (and not too expensive).  Do I want to have staff? Security? Bartender? What’s the budget?  Am I buying booze or is it BYO? (Leaning heavily to BYO I have some hard drinking friends – you know who you are). Probably a security guard fir the door but nobody else.

Step 4. Entertainment… I’m thinking partly recreating the Mana Bar would be cool but I only have a Wii and an old PS2 and only one TV.  The PC will be occupied being the Jukebox along with my Amp and speakers. Or will I try to beg borrow or steal these items?

So to try and sort these things out, Scout Hall, all and sundry, quotes for security, and determine an entertainment plan…  At least it’s after central exams.

Have fun Kiddies.

Today was like many other days, but more annoying than many.  I awoke later than I wanted to, but that is becoming the norm. My ankle was still sore as I had rolled it the day before last, and I had an exam to contemplate.  What fun was to be had by all today.

So today began, and after the work lappy booted and I got established on the work network, I go hunting for the memo my boss wants.  I find it and wait for the email client to be ready.  I send it in and now sit wondering if it will be read by anybody this time.

Ablutions complete, I make myself ready for the day.  Shaving my ankle to taking the tape off won’t hurt so much felt a little weird and caused me to wonder why shaving with the grain of the hair is more effective.  Why shaving my face for these last few years hasn’t made me ask the same question is beyond me, for now.  Heading to the bus stop the day continues.

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Ok, So I’m over being single.  Not that there is anything wrong with being single, but I’m over it.

I’m pretty happy with where I am now and I’m ready to start sharing it. And this is where it gets interesting…

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